I found this site (Mothers Day Project-War is Personal) through the blogs I read.
My "casualty" is Marilyn Gabbard. I don't think there's anything casual about it.
Command Sgt. Maj. Marilyn L. Gabbard
Hometown: Polk City, Iowa, U.S.
Age: 46 years old
Died: January 20, 2007 in Operation Iraqi Freedom.
Unit: Army National Guard, Joint Forces Headquarters, Iowa Army National Guard, Camp Dodge, Johnston, Iowa
Incident: Killed when the UH-60 Black Hawk helicopter she was in crashed in Baghdad.