Monday, October 13, 2014
One of the founders of the band, Jim Donovan, gives drumming workshops. But they aren't your typical "I'm a music teacher, what can you possibly teach me" drumming work shops.
They are for people. All People. And he teaches about the power of chanting and vibrations in the body. And you pause and meditate. And you learn how to lead a circle of drummers. And you don't need any musical knowledge. At all. And sometimes it even gets in the way.
I went to a workshop this weekend in Mt. Pleasant PA. It was about 14 psychotherapists of one kind or another. He is all about using entrainment and sound energy and percussion to change the energy of the waves of our psyche. Our brains latch on to patterns. Percussion creates patterns for our brain. If we can adjust the pattern with drumming, our wacky waves can become calm.
As a "music person" I had no fear coming to this workshop. I've been an average performer always. I understand that it takes practice to get better. I learned this weekend that adults have more fear than children when it comes to creating in those spaces. I've only ever been to music teacher workshops where everyone and their dramas are mostly ready to jump in at a moments notice. I learned so much about people watching him teach adults how to find the musician inside themselves. I learned so much about the things music teachers do to stifle these joys in children who turn into adults.
The method and training I have has always embraced student exploration and improvisation and I thought I was really "it." I'm teaching what they need and giving them chances to create. After this workshop I realized, not so much. Or at least certainly not as much as I profess to do so. When you're always fixing the sound, kids never let go of their fear and just be with the sound. The urge to strive for perfection has become much less.
I am in my 28th year of teaching. There aren't very music workshops that I can go to where most of the material and techniques are already known. This weekend, after the Sound Empowerment workshop, I feel like I got a new toy to play with.
If you ever get a chance to attend a session (click here for linkety), run, don't walk to see him and meet him and know him. It was AMAZING!
Saturday, September 13, 2014
I was a recluse when I started blogging. I had one good (not husband) friend and the primary basis of that friendship early on was that canceling plans was allowed if there was excess anxiety on either side.
When I started reading blogs I found internet friends who wrote about knit nights and yarn stores.
I thought, hey maybe I could go to a yarn store.
I did. They had knit night. After much trepidation, I went there too.
I found that I could be a part of that tribe and I made friends.
All that practice being and making friends while knitting helped in the real world. For a while I carried my knitting to combat social anxiety and only rarely did I need to resort to it.
Now I can go out into the world without it and have fun, not even needing medication. Of late I've even initiated a few social gatherings and looked forward to them with anticipation rather than dread.
Anyone who suggests that there is not magic in knitting has never heard my story.
Saturday, September 06, 2014
Friday, August 08, 2014
HusbandBob's daughter is an effortless food artist. During the first week of vacation she threw together an amazing chicken tortilla soup with a store roasted chicken some tomatoes and some chicken broth and leftovers from a previous meal. She also made a kale salad that was delicious and seemingly effortless.
That combined with the crazy kitchen dictatorship of week two and the last week of freedom has led to some more forays into healthy delicious cooking.
On Monday I tried a sausage/summer vegetable dish. Peppers, onions, red potatoes, zucchini, rosemary, garlic, and chicken apple sausage. Roast the potatoes and fry it all up in the pan. There were some glitches. It took longer for the potatoes than the recipe indicated, it was a little light on the sausage, but it was edible, interesting, and not spaghetti.
HusbandBob ate it but not without trying to turn it into spaghetti or stir fry. This would be good with red sauce. What if we had more peppers, no potatoes and served it over rice or noodles. What if you used ground beef instead of chicken. Oy.
Today it was Julia Child's eggplant pizza. It had a little higher difficulty level. I have never bought let alone cooked an eggplant. Nor have I ever salted anything to draw out the water. (Daughter did this with the kale so it wasn't completely foreign). This was delicious. I did it! I've got to think that the top shelf (as opposed to Kraft low fat shredded) mozzarella had something to do with it.
So, for at least the second time this summer I have to ask, Who Am I?
Thursday, August 07, 2014
Fortunately, given the option, I'd much rather work for someone less smart than someone who is mean.
Sunday, August 03, 2014
Week Two, on the other hand, was a challenge. In addition to a few family members (who consciously opted not to come when everyone else was there), we had space and invited some friends from home. Of the four, two were ones likely never to have a chance at such a vacation any time soon due to limited resources. The other two were a couple and the invitation was a form of repayment (the only kind the husband might take) for all of the around the house handywork that he has done for us.
We may have been naive when considering the guest list for the second week but there are some things you can't anticipate. Below is a list of things to consider should you be invited to join someone at beachfront property free of charge for a week.
1. If, once invited, you declare that you would like to be in charge of meals and food for the week, don't come to the hostess (who spent the week prior happily catering to every family members needs) on your second day there and tell her it's "her night to cook."
5. When "the whole gang" goes out for ice cream and you offer to pay, do not point out your family members to the cashier and say you will only be paying for "these four."
6. The person who pays gets to decide the thermostat setting. When someone sets the thermostat at 71 degrees, believe me when I tell you, they will notice it if you move it up to 76 and they will not be the Dude and they will not abide. There are many blankets available and it is quite warm outside.
7. When you offer to take care of food for the week, please realize that not everyone is going to want to eat the 20 lbs of chicken you had leftover from church camp for the entire week.
8. Regarding meals and gratitude. All religions are respected. Knowing that your hostess is not of a Christian denomination, it is rude to have prayer before meals that is all Jesus all the time. Your hostess will not complain because she is classy like that, but by the third time around, she will not hang out to be a forced participant.
9. The Coffee Conspiracy. Caffeine manipulation is a heinous crime punishable by torture. When your hostess comes home, she will realize what you have done and your secret motives behind the nightly coffee prep. She will no longer hold herself responsible for her less than pleasant demeanor and needing a nap after coffee each morning.
10. Complicated card games involving mental acuity are not appropriate when ages and I.Q.s range from 30-72 and 100-140. You might win, but it will be a shallow win. Also, you might find that the "stupid" person you thought you would beat will kick your ass.
11. If you come early enough to play some poker with the kids, please realize that we are not out for blood. Taking money from children is ugly. The really astute ones will say quite bluntly "I don't like it when you play."
12. Handing said children $10 as they leave does not repair your reputation nor does it qualify as "taking care of" the kids.
13. If you are a financially secure relative who was initially supposed to pay for your week of vacation, it is not appropriate to later ask "how much do I owe you." You looked into the rental, you knew the cost. Your 25% offering is insulting and does not relieve you of the responsibility of saying thank you. Even when you call later to make sure everyone got home.
14. Racist innuendos (while not full blown jokes) are offensive. Beach or no beach. Free or not free. Guest or relative. You stupid fuck.
On a positive note,
15. If you are a resourceless guest, you completely earn your keep by telling Chuck Norris and pirate "aargh" jokes for the week. Really. You are a treasarghre
What's a pirate's favorite breakfast? Pop Taarghts
How does the pirate get revenge? Kaarghma
16. Multiple references to The Big Lebowski are also welcome.
17. If you feel you are unable to adequately express your gratitude because you are overwhelmed, we understand and are really glad you could come. Your hugs and the sparkle in your eyes says it all.
18. Also your ability to make me laugh loudly and at great length in spite of the annoyances is a gift I can never repay.
Sunday, July 20, 2014
They say to wait to do blog posts until after you get home from vacation so your house won't get robbed but really, we have all of our electronic devices with us and our t.v.'s at home are ancient.
The brilliant HusbandBob realized that some hotels allow dogs so instead of leaving at half past dark thirty on Saturday morning, we did a leisurely 7 hours to Cary, NC on Friday and finished up on Saturday morning well before the standard beach traffic hit.
|And we're off!|
Before leaving I declared my intentions to BFFAmber that no matter what worries were surrounding me, I was not going to allow them to infiltrate my being.
The map/direction app on the tablet was of great assistance. HusbandBob likes to have directions heard, repeated and repeated again up until the moment of any driving maneuver. Unless of course he understands them at which point there is a little growly "I know," suggesting that I refrain from stating the obvious. There is always doubt and questioning so much so that we miss many turns because he causes me to doubt myself. I swear sometimes it feels like defiant behavior, annoyed that someone would tell him what to do. But maybe I exaggerate.
He believes Maplady. She can do no wrong. She repeats herself at the same distance away regularly. She never doubts herself even when she is wrong. He listens to her. And then asks me to repeat what she said. Which is fine. It was the smoothest navigating of our ten years together. My absolute favorite bumper sticker from the day's travels was "Jesus is coming. Look busy."
The first wave of visitors here includes brother and sis in law, and HusbandBob's son and three grandkids. We spent some time at the waters edge. Then while I took care of my second major anxiety (we need food in the house and a plan for dinner) at the grocery store and pizza place, he had the older grandgirls divvying up the change for the poker tournaments later in the week. I have full rock star status for knowing to buy apple juice without being asked and thwarting a major meltdown.
|Everyone starts with a bag full of coins.|
This morning he and brotherJerry left in search of bike rentals and boogie boards. The grandgirls had a Frozen dance show. Elsa in her various incarnations. My second level of rock star status came when I had a charger to fit the son's portable speakers. Woot woot. In a very strange sequence of events, as the dance show was ending, the very tune I used to dance to in my living room (Sugar Sugar by the Archie's) popped up as the next song.
|Elsa the Youngest|
|Elsa the Middle|
|Watcher of Elsa the Elder|
(Picture taken from bedroom balcony)
Before I left, BFFAmber wished us a trip of Ease, Joy, and Glory. (I don't really "get" the glory part but it's what she says.). The name of the houses we have rented are Glori East and Glori West. The waffle cones we purchased yesterday had individual wrappers on them that said Joy. One of the kids in the next wave of guests is a trapeze artist (that's a bit of a stretch but it works for now.). Or we could just rename these three girls to make it work.
|Joy, Glory and Ease|