Monday, December 03, 2007

Six minutes to post.

I must leave for my job in six minutes.

On my mind today- Secrets. You've got your "secrets", your "Secrets" and your "SECRETS."

secrets around holiday time- appropriate-fun-exciting-etc.

SECRETS of any other kind- as in "don't tell, they can't handle it, I can't handle them knowing"- are diseased. A lame attempt to maintain control over a situation that isn't controllable. Those who keep them for others, a lame attempt to exert Power over those not in the Know.

What can you say about secrets and the damage they have caused? Or maybe what about the secrets and the joy they have brought? Talk amongst yourselves. 30 seconds left...

I have 2" of crossover rib on a short sleeve and can declare Wicked finished. Come to find I did the ribbing wrong on the neck, not looking close enough at the pattern before diving in. Given it's top-down-ness, I think I'll grow fond of it.

8 comments:

Yarnhog said...

SECRETS...what is amazing is that, when they come out, they often end up being unimportant after all. People can handle more than one may think, and are often more understanding than they get credit for. My sister came out 20 years ago, and it was hard for everyone. So hard that my brother has remained in the closet all this time. We all know, of course, but his inability to be open about who he is has made him unable to commit to anything in his life. As a result, he is all alone and incapable of sharing close relationships with those who love him the most. My sister, however, has a loving family of her own, close friends, and a very happy life.

sunshine said...

All I know is that secrets put stress on everyone... the person holding the secret as well as the person who doesn't know the whole secret. What's the point? Why should anyone force stress on someone else?

Kim said...

I love fun happy secrets like: secret knitting, surprise parties, surprise visitors, etc. Personal secrets on the other hand can be difficult. Like Yarn Hog said, when revealed they may very well be unimportant. We all think our secrets/problems are unique, but that's usually not the case and we're surprised by the help support whatever, when we finally reveal it. Like Brad Pitt said in Fight club, "You are not a unique snowflake."

Gingersnaps with Tea... said...

Yep, I have a friend who is very secretive and I think he's nuts. I keep telling him, "the truth shall set you free." I tend to live my life an open book. I learned the hard way that even when you keep a secret with good intentions it can end up tearing you apart. On the other hand, I LOVE Christmas secrets and birthday secrets, happy secrets are OK.

Bea said...

Whoo hoo, a finished wicked! I can't wait to see it!

The A.D.D. Knitter said...

Well, at one time in my life, no long ago at all, I kept a secret that cost me my job. I was really on the rack and terrified of letting the truth out to the point that I used to role-play letting the secret out to my therapist (who had been in the closet and married for 20 years and now has a really happy life with her female partner). At one point I asked her "Why can't I just continue to lie?" and she said "Well, I can't tell you what it is to lie, but I CAN tell you what it is to LIVE a lie". At that point I knew she was right--I told the truth, got fired, and got a MUCH better job, one that I love so much. So the truth seems to always lead to happiness and the right path,but it's painful..

Anonymous said...

Some secrets are best to keep to yourself especially if they would hurt that person. I'd rather suffer than cause harm to anyone else. I always thought that surprise parties looked like fun until my husband gave me one - I found that they are overwhelming but nice.

Lydee said...

sorry, my girls are watching the grinch; I am completely incapable of serious thought.

I seriously thought your last sentence read, " Given it's topless, I think I'll grow fond of it." Had to reread it; a topless sweater, now that would be interesting...